How to Help Your Boss Help You • Ken Kousen & Trisha Gee • GOTO 2021

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This interview was recorded for the GOTO Book Club. #GOTOcon #GOTOBookClub

Ken Kousen - Author of "Help Your Boss Help You" & President at Kousen IT
Trisha Gee - Co-Author of "97 Things Every Java Programmer Should Know" & Java Advocacy Lead at JetBrains

There are tons of books about how to become a manager and how to improve as a manager, but in this Book Club episode, Trisha Gee talks to Ken Kousen about how you can manage your own manager. They explore his book “Help Your Boss Help You,” which takes the standpoint of an employee and how you can build a relationship with your boss that helps you get what you want. What drives the dynamic in a professional relationship, and how can you as an employee steer the wheel for your career?
The interview is based on Ken's book "Help Your Boss Help You":

00:00 Intro
03:44 The books before the book
08:18 How to manage your manager: iterated prisoner’s dilemma
16:19 Find the middle ground
20:22 Inclusive language matters
27:11 Building a relationship
31:29 Why are there bad managers?
38:08 Change your situation
42:20 Should your boss be your friend?
49:51 Outro

Read the full transcription of the interview here:

Ken Kousen • Help Your Boss Help You •
Ken Kousen • Kotlin Cookbook •
Ken Kousen • Modern Java Recipes •
Ken Kousen • Gradle Recipes for Android •
Ken Kousen • Making Java Groovy •
Robert Axelrod • The Evolution of Cooperation •
Kevlin Henney & Trisha Gee • 97 Things Every Java Programmer Should Know •
Matthew Skelton & Manuel Pais • Team Topologies •
#Management #Leadership #HowToTalkToYourBoss #Programming #KenKousen #TrishaGee #Teams #SoftwareTeams #ManagingYourManager #Inclusivity #Diversity #PrisonersDilemma #IteratedPrisonersDilemma #BadManagers #Change

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